Men...

lie. It's a simple fact . I could just as easily say women lie. Men and women lie about the same thing - for different reasons.Some Men lie because they want sex ( I love you, I'm not married; living with anyone .You're beautiful....) Women often lie so they can get out of having sex ( I'm having my period. I have a headache. I'm tired. ) . Both sexes lie about money ... how much they do or do not have... how much they need... spent...make... Some peeps simply lie about everything. There are no absolutes.

Oddly ( or maybe not...lol... ) It was a man that taught me about having a stash of cash. Although my mum did email me once and it stated that every women should have a few thousand in their personal savings so they could rent their own house or move at a moment's notice. I subscribe to both theories.
So, I met this Honduran guy some months ago through the J.O.B. We chatted there a few times a week. I finally accepted a ride home from him. He said he was unmarried. On the ride home he told me he was 33 when I asked. I wasn't thrilled about the age difference ( yeah I know it shouldn't matter but it often does! lol... he looked a bit older than that!!.). My older daughter said that as long as " the man in my life" was older than my son-n-laws it was ok. But not to get seriously involved. Uh - huh... lol... Anyway, we chatted and he dropped me off and that was that.

He said he'd call me today. He didn't..but he showed up univited. My dogs are always on duty . I heard them warning me of an intruder. No worries. I walk out to the gate with a chainsaw in my hand. I'm getting ready to cut down some more trees/branches. . He looks as me and asks in a slightly astonished voice "You're going to use that?" ( ummm..that's the whole point of having a chainsaw.... ) . So.. we stand there with the fence in between us.. while he tries to explain... He's not a cheat . OK.... lol. ( it truly sounded like he said I'm not a shit with his accent..).After 3 times and me breaking out in giggles ( he glared and I apologized while I fought off more giggles ) we switched to Spanish although we speak different dialects. He goes on to tell me that he has a 2 year old daughter.. uh-huh... My questions ," Where does she live ? Where's the mum?" Turns out he lives with the mum and his daughter ( the roommates he referred to? lol ) but we could be friends. He's being honest because in his words "You are a good woman."

No... lol.. we can't be friends ! Not just because he lied..but also because I refuse to be the " other woman" for anyone . Don't get me wrong.. I have male friends that are single and others that are married. But they do not lie about their relationships nor lie about me. My friend Steve jokes that we have been friends so long because we've never dated. I happen to agree with him. I do not like his current girlfriend so I don't hear as much from him. However, we are still friends. I've now been Bear's friend longer than his first marriage lasted ( and I'll probably out last his second marriage .) .

Anyway, Jorje was the second man to lie to me today. He actually did not upset me at all. As far as Jorje goes... I have no emotion or time invested in him. That makes a difference.

Regardless of the reason , I'd rather hear " I don't want to talk about it at this time." than a point blank lie. Sometimes though.. peeps lie to themselves. I refuse to enable them. Sometimes we simply have to let go... say I love you ...and walk away....

Earlier in the day a man beat a 24 year old woman and threw her across the car into the street. Fortunately her month old baby was elsewhere. I get the call. Unfortunately, in this case there is not much one can do... offer help .. money, a safe place... an ear... but what I hear is very common. " It will be ok. All I have to do is be quiet. If I don't say a word, everything will be ok. He says it's my fault. I simply need to be quiet. I pushed him into it. It was my fault. I need to learn... "
That misconception always breaks my heart. It will only be ok until the next time. Who knows how far he will go ? What will happen if the baby is there with them? Did she pick up the baby; take the money and run? Or eventually go back home? Time will tell... hopefully before it is too late.

So yeah... while men and women both lie to others... it's often worse if one lies to one's self.